In order to keep your marriage and stop a divorce, you need to convince your ex to give the relationship a another go. However, how do you actually do this? While it isn't always doable, it is absolutely essential in order to make an attempt to rescue your relationship.
Whether or not divorce papers have already been filed and served, not all hope is lost. A divorce can be avoided at almost any point, in spite of if you separated yesterday or a year ago. Nonetheless, the quicker that you can avoid a divorce, you will have a greater probability of success that the divorce won't be restarted.
To preserve your relationship and stop the divorce, you will have to persuade your partner to give you and your relationship a second chance. If you've been pestering, pleading, even hounding your spouse to get back together with you, cease without delay. This is the most grievous error that most people make, and one of the most detrimental things that you can do. You may be pondering that "if I don't keep attempting to get my ex back, then I'll never get back together with them".
It does sound counter-intuitive to grant someone the room that they need in order to get them back. It boils down to a psychological principle called The Scarcity Theory. Simply put, the more you refuse someone access to something, the more that they want it. It's similar to the Law of Supply and Demand...the rarer something is, the more it is worth to someone. If something is in abundance, not a lot of value is connected to it. So, if you're in surplus to your partner, always nagging them to take you back, it's unlikely that they're going to view you as desirable, and your relationship will be lost permanently.
As opposed to behaving juvenile, ranting and raving to your ex to take you back, consider behaving like a mature adult. It will most likely come as a pleasant surprise to your spouse and go a long way to preventing the divorce. Calmly accept that your marriage has experienced some painful times recently, and you're hurt, but you'd really like to give your relationship a second chance. Always remember...calm and honest.
Yet another strategy to stop divorce is to reveal your maturity and love by proposing marital or couples counseling. Counseling has been a success for millions of people and couples. Your marriage will likely benefit from it. Men and women, physically, are obviously different. What isn't obvious to a lot of people is that men and women, psychologically and emotionally, are VERY unique. It is crucial to recognize this and understand exactly HOW they differ, so that you better understand your partner's thoughts and emotions.
All through your counseling periods, you'll be given the chance to demonstrate to your partner why you love them. You can remind them why you fell in love with them in the first place, and how you desire to have those days back, versus fighting and bickering all of the time. Be truthful, and give an honest effort in wanting to figure out the marital issues that come up while in counseling. That in itself might be plenty to persuade your spouse to not only stop the divorce for the moment, but permanently.
If you do well in stopping the separation, remember that the challenging part is yet to come. You and your spouse have a lot of repairing to do. Keep in mind that the other person was willing to divorce you, and it would be easy for them to change their mind and file for divorce soon after. Having started a divorce once already makes the choice to file again simpler. Be mindful of the state of your relationship, and continue counseling.
Relationships can be hard at times, and something that you must continuously work on both individually and as a couple. However, just as they can be challenging, remember that they can also be very fulfilling. Go now, download my free ebook and videos, and discover the steps you need to take to help get my ex back. If you use these free resources, I'm confident that they'll help you to Get Wife Back.